I have been thinking a lot over the last few days regarding the hot weather and how you all cope with the heat? I struggle, I get hot quickly and I have always been one to cover my arms and hide behind clothes. I would cover up and not show any skin. My perspective on this has been changing since I have found more confidence in myself and I can honestly say since staring www.biggirlsdontcry.co.uk my outlook has changed again. I have been reading more and looking at more Facebook and Instagram accounts and seeing so many beautiful, confident and sexy plus size girls that wear what they want when they want and don’t worry about what other’s think. It has given me such a boost, a lift of confidence which to be honest I wasn’t sure I would ever find. I am confident with myself and with my partner and even with close family but I have always struggled when going out in to the big wide world, what would people think? Will they point and stare? Will they laugh? I could not remove these thoughts from my head and it would leave me reaching for my cardigan!
Well no more, I will not be held to ransom, it’s too hot and I want to feel comfortable. So I did it, I went out, I went shopping in a vest top, arms free and do you know what, no one cared, no one looked, no one pointed, no one laughed. I felt a little self-conscious to start off with and I felt like I had to look around and keep an eye on everyone around me. But after a while that feeling disappeared, it melted away instead of me melting! Life just carried on, we did what we needed to and we had a bite to eat, we had fun and I felt comfortable and free. Free to be me, which Mark is always telling me I should do more!
So I am wondering what I can do next, shorts maybe or a short skirt with no tights! The sky’s the limit and I feel free, I feel ready to take on the world and revamp my wardrobe. To wear some pretty dresses and to enjoy wearing things I have never dared to before. My next challenge is to go to work in a shorter sleeved top or even something that shows my arms. I don’t really have anything that is office suitable so I feel a shopping spree coming on.
It has made me think about other things I do because I have been scared or lacking confidence. I have stopped myself from approaching people and from starting conversations, I have told myself I would not be someone they would want to talk to and I have hidden behind those I am with and love. I have not spoken out at work when I have an idea and I have not stepped forward and I have missed opportunities. So this is my challenge to take this new found confidence and to develop it in to all other aspects of my life. I am going to be braver and I am going to step out of my comfort zone. I will report back on how this is going from time to time and I would love to hear your experiences. What have you done to step outside your comfort zone? What gives you confidence?
Please keep reading the blogs and find me one Facebook and Instagram, I want to build our little Big Girls community and I would love to hear about your experiences and your opinions.